“Sunday Dad” and a 10-Year-Old Daughter: A Quality Contact Algorithm Introduction: Situation Specifics and Age Characteristics The “Sunday dad” situation (a father living separately and meeting the child episodically, usually on weekends) is psychologically challenging for all participants. For a 10-year-old girl, this is a pre-adolescent period (prepuberty), characterized by: Growth of social intelligence and reflection: She already deeply comprehends the situation of her parents’ divorce/separation and may experience complex feelings (guilt, resentment, longing, anger). Formation of her own identity outside the family, active integration into the school community, emergence of idols and hobbies. Critical attitude towards adults, but at the same time a strong need for approval and acceptance from significant figures, among whom the father undoubtedly belongs. The father’s optimal behavior algorithm should focus not on “entertainment” or “showering with gifts,” but on building predictable, trusting, and respectful relationships that compensate for the lack of everyday contact. Fundamental Principles of the Algorithm Principle 1: From Entertainment to Joint Activity. At 10 years old, the child outgrows the stage when communication is based solely on visits to entertainment centers. The value lies in an activity that involves joint effort. This creates a foundation for conversation, shared memories, and a sense of teamwork. Principle 2: Predictability and Reliability. For the girl in this situation, the father should become an island of stability. This means: promises are kept, meetings happen at agreed times, rules (set by the mother) are respected. Chaotic or canceled meetings cause psychological trauma, increasing the sense of instability. Principle 3: Respect for Boundaries and Autonomy. A ten-year-old is not a toddler to be cuddled and led by the hand. It is necessary to respect her opinion, desire for independence, personal space (bag, phone, diary). This demons ... Read more