When the relationship between parents after a divorce turns into a war, children become hostages. The mother or her relatives (grandmother, grandfather, aunts) may hinder the father's communication with his daughter. They don't let her go on weekends, don't answer calls, and manipulate the child. And the daughter is 10 years old — she already understands everything, but she can't protect herself. What should the father do? How to communicate if the mother blocks meetings? We tell you about legal and diplomatic methods. Why does the mother hinder? Reasons: resentment towards the ex-husband, a desire for revenge. Fear of losing control over the daughter (jealousy). Belief that the father has a negative influence (alcohol, bad company). Influence of one's own parents (grandmother pressures: "Don't let him in, he's not needed to us"). Desire to receive alimony (the less communication, the more money? No, alimony does not depend on this). Just character (authoritarian, does not tolerate objections). Sometimes the mother sincerely believes that she is protecting the daughter from the father-tyrant (even if that's not the case). Important: do not respond to aggression with aggression. This will only worsen the situation. Step 1: negotiations Try to reach an agreement peacefully. Not through the court, but through a conversation. Choose a neutral place (a cafe, a park). Speak calmly, without accusations. "I understand that you are angry. But let's think about our daughter. She needs both parents." Offer a specific schedule (every Saturday from 10 am to 6 pm). Or an alternative: video calls on Wednesdays. Enlist the support of relatives on her side (if there are reasonable ones). Ask the school psychologist to talk to the mother (the school does not want scandals). If it doesn't help, move on to written forms. Step 2: mediation A mediator is an independent specialist who helps conflicting parties reach an agreement. The service is paid (from 5000 rubles per meeting). The med ... Read more