This is painful. When the grandson you carried on your hands suddenly stops calling. Answers simply. Sends emojis on birthdays. The grandmother becomes unnecessary. Why does this happen? Is the grandson to blame? How to cope? And can you restore the connection? Let's talk openly. Age stages Up to 7 years: grandmother is the center of the world. The grandson looks forward to her, misses her, is happy with gifts. 7-11 years: friends, school, hobbies appear. The grandmother is still important, but not in the first place. 11-14 years: teenage rebellion. The grandson may reject adults, including the grandmother. "You're old, you don't understand my life." This is normal. 14-17 years: separation. The grandson builds his own life, the grandmother fades into the background. Calls become less frequent. 18+: the adult grandson may be busy with work, study, family. The grandmother sometimes falls out of sight. Important: this is not personal offense, it's stages of development. Conflicts and grievances The grandmother criticizes the grandson's parents (especially the mother). The grandson hears, gets angry. The grandmother pressures: "You should listen to me, I'm the oldest." The grandson resists. The grandmother compares the grandson to other children ("But Masha..."). The grandmother does not respect boundaries (reads messages, enters without knocking, comments on appearance). The grandmother complains about her health to attract attention ("I'm going to die soon, and you..."). This is manipulation, the grandson gets tired. Solution: the grandmother needs to change her style of communication. Don't criticize, don't pressure, don't complain. Be interested in the grandson's life without judgments. When the grandmother really gets in the way The grandmother interferes in the upbringing: "Don't give the child this medicine," "Don't go to this section." The grandson hears arguments between the parents and the grandmother, gets tired. The grandmother lives far away, ...
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