Narcissistic father. This is not a dad who sometimes brags about his achievements. This is a person for whom a child is not a person, but a function. A function to reflect his greatness, to be a listener to his monologues, to be an eternal debtor. Children of narcissistic fathers grow up with the feeling that they are "not good enough," that love needs to be earned by deeds, and their own desires do not matter. But this trauma can be healed. We tell you how to recognize a narcissistic father and how to escape from his invisible yoke. How to recognize a narcissistic father A narcissistic father does not necessarily scream or hit. More often, he is cold, demanding, self-absorbed. Signs: he constantly talks about his achievements, belittling others. He demands success from children to "confirm" his genius ("my son is a top student because I raised him that way"). He cannot tolerate criticism, even constructive. He reacts with anger or silence to any objection. He violates boundaries: may read personal correspondence, criticize the choice of a partner, interfere in financial affairs. He does not remember what is important to the child, but he remembers perfectly what the child owes him. He does not apologize. If you try to talk about his behavior, he either attacks or changes the subject. Types of narcissistic fathers Father-"king": he requires admiration and worship. The family is his court. Children must be grateful spectators. Father-"competitor": especially dangerous for sons. He competes with them, belittles their achievements ("well, you did it, but I was your age..."). Father-"diminisher": he criticizes everything the child does, even if objectively good. Father-"victim": he constantly complains about life, about his mother, about work, making the child his psychotherapist. All these types have one thing in common: the child does not feel unconditionally loved. Children of narcissistic fathers: who they grow up to be Scenarios are different. A daughter ... Read more