Vacation. For a child, it's freedom. For an adult, it's a headache. A child dreams of sleeping until noon, playing on the computer, going for walks. An adult thinks: where to leave the child, what to keep them busy, how not to hit the wall. The gap in perception is colossal. But why is that? And can we make vacation joyful for everyone? The Child's Perspective Vacation is a long-awaited break from school. From teachers, grades, homework. It's time when you can finally do what you love. Sleep as much as you want. Meet friends (not just during breaks). Travel with the family. Do nothing (「lying on the couch」is a full-time activity). A child doesn't think about the benefits. He thinks about joy. For him, vacation is a gift. Even if he's at home, he's happy that he doesn't have to get up early. The Adult's Perspective An adult (parent) sees vacation as a problem. Who to leave the child with if both work? How to organize leisure without constantly checking your phone? How much will it cost (camp, tutors, clubs)? How not to forget the school curriculum? In the end, vacation turns into a logistical quest. The adult wants the child to rest and develop. Often these goals conflict. This is where the stress of parents and the disappointment of children come from. What Does the Child Think of the Adult's Plans Parents: 「We'll send you to camp, it will be fun」. Child: 「I don't want to go to camp, I want to be home」. Parents: 「We'll read 20 books this summer」. Child: 「I hate reading」. Parents: 「We'll go to the seaside, buy tours」. Child: 「I'd rather play on my tablet」. Adults often impose their own ideas of a good vacation. The child resists. Solution: give choices. 「What do you want: camp or a trip to grandma's？」. Not 「what we will do」, but 「which option out of two」. What Does the Adult Think of the Child's Desires Child: 「I want to sit on my phone all day」. Adult: 「That's harmful, eyesight, posture」. Child: 「I want to sleep until noon」. Adult: 「Then you'll be lazy」. Conflict is ... Read more